Friday, October 13, 2006

Dale Carnegie's Golden Book-Part 1

Today I received a tiny book from the Dale Carnegie Training Centre..and I found it very helpful and thus, wanna share with you.

PRINCIPLE FROM HOW TO WIN FREINDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE
Become a Friendlier Person

  1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
  2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
  4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  5. Smile.
  6. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  8. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
  9. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other person's opinion. Never say, "you're wrong."
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying."yes. yes" immediately.
  6. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  7. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
  8. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
  9. Appeal to the nobler motives.
  10. Dramatise your ideas.
  11. Throw down a challenge.
Be a Leader
  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face.
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise".
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live it up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
to be continued...

4 comments:

Mark Lee said...

A lot of interesting points. If one's able to put these key take-aways to practise, it'll be significant improve one's communication/leadership skills.

The Dale Carnegie's courses seem promising. Hope you're able to learn as much as you could, and apply them in your work. =)

stupidcupid said...

then, I will definitely share with you!..for 50% of the course fees!

Mark Lee said...

Hey... not fair. =)

stupidcupid said...

in that case..25% then..:p