好无奈！

Few months ago, I was appointed by MD, to be the assistant program coordinator for his son's wedding, aka, my immediate boss!..wasn't really happy about it as:-
No. 1 This is their personal matters, moreover it is a wedding, not a simple general meeting with customer!
No. 2 No prior notice/consent asked
No. 3 My exam is 2 days after the wedding!

well..I told myself..我不能做什么，谁叫我是他的秘书？其实，我很乐意协助。。只是有很多事情，我不能认同MD的做法或作风。。太固执。。虽然是他儿子的婚事，我想，他的儿子也无能为力。。

我很不满意自己被扯上老板的私人事情。。难道，他们的亲人，亲戚或朋友，没有人可以负责吗？在公司上要处理的东西，已经是好多了。。连周末的时间，也要被公事占据了。。虽然我是领你的薪水。。但不表示我有这个责任，

事实也不是是我一人有怨言，同时间，公司也有好几位同事，与我一样，踏上这艘‘无奈’船。。hey..we are suppose to be the guest..to enjoy the night..but then, we are given huge responsibilities and what did we get in the end? I foresee lots of scolding, lecturing, blames..总之，好无奈！认命吧！

Never miss the first opportunity

A young man wished to marry the farmer's beautiful daughter. He went
to the farmer to ask for permission. The farmer looked him over and said,
"Son, go stand out in tht field. I'm going to release three bulls, one
at a time. If you can catch the tail of any of the three bulls, you can
marry my daughter."

The young man stood in the pasture awaiting the first bull. The barn
door opened and out ran the biggest, meanest-looking bull he had ever seen.
He decided that one of the next bulls had to be a better choice than this
one, so he ran over to the side and let the bull pass through the pasture,
out the back gate.

The barn door opened again. Unbelievable! He had never seen anything
so big and fierce in his life. It stood pawing the ground, grunting,
slinging slobber as it eyed him. Whatever the next bull was like, it had to be
a better choice than this one. He ran to the fence and let the bull pass
through the pasture, out the back gate.

The door opened a third time. A smile came across his face. This was
the weakest, scrawniest little bull he had ever seen. This one was his
bull.
As the bull came running by, he positioned himself just right and
jumped at just the exact moment. He grabbed... but the bull had no tail!

Life is full of opportunities--small or big. They will come and go.
Some will be easy to take advantage of, some will be difficult. But once we
let them pass (often in hopes of something better), those opportunities may
never again be available. So always try to make use of the first
opportunity that comes to you. You don't know if there are other
opportunities in the waiting for you!

I once came across this quote: IDEAS HAVE A SHORT SHELF LIFE.
YOU MUST ACT ON THEM BEFORE THE EXPIRATION DATE.

Relationship secrets

ANNIVERSARIES
Always celebrate! Whether it's the 1st or the 50th, each year
together is a triumph.

APPRECIATION
Let each other know how much you appreciate each other. You may
already know but hearing it from each other is always better.

BEST FRIENDS
Be best friends preferably before being boyfriend-girlfriend.
Take time to know each other so the relationship will be a deep one.
Tell each other about your crushes, dreams and problems. Make sure
he/she is your best friend before getting engaged. The strong bond of
friendship will help you both survive tough times.

BOND
Make it a point to spend time together often but leave room for
each other. Also spend time alone w/ each other, so that at the end of
the day you could both share your experiences. This way, you stay
interesting with your partner.

COMPLIMENTS
Always compliment each other. This will prevent feelings of
resentment & thinking that one is being taken for granted.

DATE
Keep doings things that you both enjoy, do them together. Make
time & continue to date to keep the romance - look good, smell good to
maintain physical attraction

DIFFERENCES
Celebrate differences. Never force your ideologies down each
other's throat. Give up trying to turn your partner into you. Accept
differences, appreciate them.

FIGHTS
Fight w/the aim to resolve the issue. Don't outdo each other.
The longer you extend the fight. The more chances that you'll say
something hurtful that you don't really mean. As mad as you were w/
your partner, he/she is still the person who laughs at your jokes & thinks
you're hot. Hear each other out, don't dig up old issues. Choose your
battles. Make sure the fight will be worth it & that something will
change in the relationship as a result of the fight.

FLAWS
Know that the perfect person does not exist. Know that just as
there are things that you love about him/her, there will be things that
will make you go crazy. We are only human with our own flaws.

FUN
Have fun together! This means keeping the fun & spontaneity that
was there in the early days.
Allow yourselves to get silly. Being able to make each other
laugh & see the lighter, crazier, absurd side is the best way to get
through all the differences in personalities, adjustments in lifestyle
& opposing viewpoints.

GOALS
Make sure you have similar goals. It would be difficult to keep
your bond intact if your views are complete opposite.

GRUDGES
Quit tabulating grudges. Let it off. Discuss it, then trash it,
don't recycle it.

KEEPING IT HOT
Keep it hot by travelling to diff. places together. A new
setting will do wonders. Always have skin contact - be it holding
hands, a massage or just plain leg rubbing.

HONESTY
Don't lie or hide things. The problem will only get bigger.
 
KNOW EACH OTHER
Learn each other's interest. It really keeps the conversation
flowing!
 
HUG
A hug can be far better more intimate than a kiss.

IDENTITY
Don't lose your personality - that's why he/she fell in love
w/you. Have separate interest & activities to keep your individual, &
to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

INDEPENDENCE
Having your own income means you're the boss in your life.

IN-LAWS
Make rooms for the in-laws.

INTENTIONS
Wish each other well. Don't wish each other worst

ISSUES
Speak up about the awkward stuff now, like money & sex. The
earlier, the better.

LISTEN
Listen, listen, listen. Hear each other out especially during
arguments.

LOOK GOOD
Mind your appearance! Stay fit & healthy for each other.

LOVE
It all boils down to your love, chemistry & respect for each
other.

MEMORIES
Remind each other of the old days. Do something that you used to
do for each other before. It may even be corny but it made you two
together. Experience new things together- from dining into a new
restaurant to experiencing street food together to exploring to new
places. It's the little surprises that make great memories.

MIND READING
No matter how long you've been together, do not think that you
can read each other's mind.

NEEDS
Be good to yourself, then be good to your partner. That's what
love is all about. Think about your partner. Will it make him/her
happy? Will she/he enjoy it? Consider each other's feelings.
Be very attentive & sensitive to each other's needs, physically &
emotionally, that way your partner learns to do the same for you.
Never take your partner for granted.

PRIORITIES
If one says it's important, then it is! Prioritize each other
among other things!

SPACE
Give each other space. Have your boy's night out. If you can't
trust each other with this, then don't get married.

SORRY
Say sorry when you're wrong.

SURPRISES
No matter how long you've known each other, be open to
surprises, both good or bad.

TEAMWORK
Think for two & always work as a team. Consult each other before
making a decision because everything will always affect both of you.
Strengthen couple power. In many ways, we have to decide based on what
is best for the relationship in favour of our individual selves.
 
SUPPORT
Support each other's dream. Be willing to follow your passions,
support your partner in his/her decisions & create new ones together.
Two heads are better than one.
 
TALK
Tell each other's stories. Life goes by so fast & its easy to
see how easily couple can grow apart. Whenever something funny, scary,
exciting or juicy happened to you or to someone you know, tell each
other about it & have your partner do the same. Keep each other in the
loop of life.

Caller: Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan (anyone)?
Operator: Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller: No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!
Operator: You are talking to someone! Who is this?
Caller: I'm Sam Wan (someone) and I need to talk to Annie Wan! It is urgent.
Operator: I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone, but what is this urgent matter about?
Caller: @#$... just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noel Wan ( no one ) was involved in an accident. Noel Wan got injured and now Noel Wan is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan (everyone) is on his way to the hospital.
Operator: Look, if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller: You are so rude! What is your name?
Operator: I am Saw Lee (sorry) !
Caller: Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!!

这样的男人值得你嫁

女人一辈子的幸福是拥有甜蜜的爱情，美满的婚姻，很多女人很多有过甜蜜的爱情，但不一定能够找到美满的婚姻，所谓人怕如错行，女怕嫁错郎！能够嫁一个好老公，是非常美好的事情，所以姐妹们，擦亮眼睛找老公，不符合条件的坚决不嫁！

1. 一个男人最重要的应该是坚强。那些失败过一次就怨天尤人，跌倒了爬不起来的男人坚决不能要。男人要能给女人安全感，如果你找一个老公，不能够照顾你，还要经常在你面前哭诉自己的不幸，让你也承担他实际上是可以挽救的痛苦，是非常失败的。
2. 忠诚。这点就不用多说了，相信所有的女人不愿意自己的老公“红杏出墙”
3. 有气度。一定不能找小家子气的男人，即使他爱你。但是因为一点点小事就吃醋，不论你是因公与上司出去应酬，还是因私与多年不久的朋友聚会，在你回家后大吵大闹或者阴沉着脸半天不搭理你的男人，其实是自私的。当然，他会说他那是因为爱你才吃醋，可是不要忘了，爱一个人也要给他自由，姐妹们千万不要做被男人用各种方法把你变相的留在家里做只能洗衣做饭的家庭主妇。不是说家庭主妇不好，而是作为现在这个社会的女性，要有自己的社交圈子，要独立，自强，不能给自己自由空间的男人千万不要找。
4. 大男人气概。这里说的大男人气概，不是说大男人主义，那种在家里典型家务一点不做，衣来伸手饭来张口的男人不可取。大男人气概是指你在外面受到欺负时，它能够挺身而出，毫不犹豫的为你出头，真真切切的保护你。光是这一点，这个男人都值得你考慮托付终身。
5. 不要xxx乖宝宝。没人说孝顺不对，孝顺的男人很善良，但是，夫妻之间的事都征求xxx看法，毫无自己主见，嘴巴动不动就说：“妈妈说。。。妈妈说。。。”这样的妈妈面前的乖宝宝坚决不能要，记住，你嫁的是一个男人，并不是那个男人的母亲。
6. 爱屋及乌。一个男人如果真的爱你，会爱你的一切，包括你的坏习惯，你的朋友，你的家人。。。。如果他不能忍受你的朋友或家人某些方面的缺陷或对你身边的人有所不满，那么作为一个聪明的女性，应当尽量避免他与他们见面；如果他苛求到要求你与他们断绝来往，不用犹豫了，甩了他吧！
7. 有一份稳定的收入。爱情是很重要的，但是要建立在有面包的基础上。不一定要万贯家财，可生活要有保障。所谓贫贱夫妻百事哀，如果一个男人连孩子的奶粉钱都拿不出来，这个月初就开始担心下个月的供房款，那么，你跟着他只有吃苦的份了。
8. 有责任心。男人一定要有责任心，自己做的是要敢于自己承担，无论是公事还是私事。那种一有事就往别人身上推的男人不但卑鄙而且可耻。
9. 无不良嗜好。烟可以抽一点，酒可以喝一点，但不能太多。你总不想天天回去面对一个醉醺醺的酒鬼，嘴里还不是散发着一股浓浓的烟臭味的人吧？
10. 细心又有情趣。它可以不记得你大伯小叔三姑四姨的生日，但你的生日与结婚纪念日一定要记住，这两个日子在婚姻生活中是很重要的。能够出去浪漫一下，还有礼物收是最好的。

能够做到以上10点的男人，你就可以考慮嫁给他了！

How I spent my CNY-17/2-4/3

Yesterday was Chap Goh Mei, the last day for CNY..今年的华人新年过的还蛮快的，可是，对我来说，却意义非凡。。也过得特别开心。。因为多了一位成员，与我一起过新年。。所以，很想把它Blog下来，作为纪念。。

17.2.07 (Sat)-CNY eve
as usual, I did not apply for leave on CNY eve..anyhow, its just half day work, so no point wasting my leave :p. This year, mum decided not to cook BIg feast as what she normally did..instead, we had steamboat..invited my both aunties, Mei Yi, Kak Hock and family..10 adults 3 kids..all party-ing at my house..mum prepared many delicious steamboat ingredients..prawns, abalone, fishballs, vegetables, yong tao fu, fish etc..太丰富了！
after dinner, some of us sat down for TV shows, some play cards and my 3 nephews (cousin's sons) played fire crackers..not forgetting receiving angpows also..
I went out for movie with Mark..we watched "The Protege 门徒"-starring Andy Lau, Leo Ku, Daniel Wu..a movie about drugs..quite nice and had very meaningful message..

18.2.07 (Sun) 1st day of CNY
So happen this year 1st day of CNY falls on Sunday..so can combined Sunday and CNY service together..and to my surprise, Rev Yeo gave a short sermon..so the service ended early..then, as usual, we went to 二姨's house for lunch..Mark came along as well..
Later, I followed Mark to his church member's house, which so happen, near my place..Uncle Chee Beng's mum's house..I got to know many of his church members and all of them were so nice and warm..met Uncle Soon Teck and Aunt Mei Ching there too (my mum used to babysit their children..so i knew them well)..
Then, came Uncle Fook Lim..the Sunday School ex-superintendent of Gospel Hall..he is really a funny elderly man..Mark said he is a joker, likes to talk and always bring happiness and laughter to everyone..true enough, I had a great laugh chatting with him..
At night, both of us went house visitation..Mark's buddies house..and the world is so small..one of his buddy, 文迪, his girl friend is my uni-mate!..and they are getting married this September, same date as my sis.

19.2.07 (Mon）-2nd day of CNY
Early morning, mum, Ai Hoi and I went to Banting to visit my mum's aunt..each year, we will visit her, and usually she will treat us with satay and ketupat..but this year, we had milo and cake..hehe...then mum will definitely buy fish..coz there is a fishmonger nearby her house and the fishes are very fresh and cheap ..
Then, on our way back from Banting, we dropped by my 二舅 house in Jenjarom, mum's cousin's house as well..
Later, my cousins-Bee Bee and Kak Soon came to my house and they played Mahjong..I took afternoon nap coz too tired, and at night I will be going over to Mark's place for dinner..
Dinner at his house was nice..this is my first time meeting his parents, sisters, brother-in-law, his niece, his relatives..we had steamboat again..haha..and it was his dad's birthday!..双喜临门。。
After the dinner, both of us went to Chin Suan's house to play cards till almost 1230am..wow..we were both small players, RM1 each game..hehe..but 很奇妙的是，很多时候，我们俩的牌面都是一样的。。if I had blackjack, Mark will has blackjack too and etc..we had a great time at Suan's place..

20.2.07 (Tues)-3rd day of CNY
Met up with Boon Eng, my old friend for more than 20 years..had a great time chatting about our past memories and also updating each other on current news..
Then, Uncle Tee Kiang, Aunt Lay Leng, Uncle Soon Teck and Aunt Mei Ching came to my house..they will usually visit us during 3rd day of CNY..
In the noon, I followed Mark to his church member's house in Meru, his church elder is having open house..It was his first year there too..met Uncle Fook Lim again and he made me laughed with his jokes/humors..
Supposingly, we were going to Chin Suan's house with Eng Wah and Ah Bu, but last minute, plan changed..we went to Mark's ex-secondary school friend's house..and again, the world is so small..one of his friend..Poh Chun, I knew his sister, my primary schoolmate..I was able to click with his friends..we played cards also..
At night, Mark joined me for family dinner..my sis and bf were back from Singapore..we went to this new restaurant at Centro, a new business centre..food was good but pricy!
Then, Ai Lee's friends came by and we played Mahjong, cards till almost 1am..had so much fun..

21.2.07 (Wed)-4th day of CNY
Today, I went to OCBC with May, Steven and Laura to settle some YM matters..changing of bank signatories for new fiscal year..Then, I followed Mark to gym, at Celebrity Fitness, Subang..Because I was a visitor, so I had to listen to some explanations and promotions by CF..felt so bored and the consultant was not polite at all..we were so pissed off with her attitude..after 1 hour+ of work out, we joined his friends for karaoke session at Galaxy karaoke, Subang..sang for 4 hours..Mark is really a good singer..can reach high note..duet a song with him, 屋顶 by Jay Chow and Landy
At night, both of us, May and KT planned to visit Pr Maggie, who was back from Cambodia for holidays..but then she wasn't at home..then wanted to go over Andrew's place, he was not in as well..so ended up, we went to Siong Eik and Yee Sin's place, their new house in Ambang Botanic..

22.2.07 (Thurs)-5th day of CNY
Mark and I went to Genting for a day trip..It had been more than 5 years since my last visit to Genting..To avoid the traffic, we took the cable car up to the hill..Weather was not as cold as I thought it would be..but just nice..as usual, Genting was crowded with people..we went to the outdoor themepark.,had a ride on the pirate ship and the antique car..walked around the place and came back around 5pm..
Tonight, mum invited Mark for dinner at our house..partly was due to sis will be goin back to Singapore tomorrow, so she decided to cook big feast..二姨and Mei Yi joined us too..

23.2.07 (Fri)-6th day of CNY
I started work today..office was kinda quiet and everybody is still in CNY mood..my GM was on MC..so I was a little bit free...did some clerical works..and waiting for the time to pass..
At night, Mark and I went to 西湖老师's house..he had invited all CG leaders to his house for buffet dinner..met some of my ex-colleagues too..After that, we went for a movie-Ghost Rider, starring Nicholas Cage..not really my type of movie but it was alright..

24.2.07 (Sat)-7th day of CNY
After work, had lunch with Uncle Chee Beng, Aunt Lay Leng and Mark at Little Bali, near Bukit Tinggi..one of my favourite hang out place..the reason for this lunch was actually to thank both Uncle Chee Beng and Aunt Lay Leng for introducing Mark and I to each other..if not for them, probably things would be different by now..and also to thank God for His wonderful plan in our life..
Later at night, I joined Mark, his sis and bro in law for dinner in Puchong..together with his sis's friend, Jackie and Gary..Mark claimed that their baby boy was his godson..we wanted to try the famous 纸包鸡..but because we were late, out of stock liao..hehe..but then, we had an enjoyable dinner...

25.2.07 (Sun)-8th day of CNY
wow..so fast, a week had passed..well, happy moments usually passed fast..went to church..and later lunch with Mark before he travelled back to Kulim in the evening..Gonna miss him for weeks..
26.2.07-2.3.07 (Mon-Fri)-9th-13th of CNY
life back to normal again..busy with works, CG..but on 28/2, May, Siang and I went to visit Andrew, my CPA mentor..in Botanic...I truly liked his house, especially the interior design..very nicely done and it gave you the feeling of HOME..then, May and I met up with Tze Ying, ex-YM president, who was back from Germany for holidays...we had a good sisterly chat at May's house..listening to TY's sharing bout her life in Germany and her walk with God..personally I felt pretty much inspired and motivated..thanks TY..
and on 2/3, my MD invited me and some colleagues for dinner at Carcosa Seri Negara, KL (used to be the King's palace)..There was a performance on that night-Emily and Emerald HIlls, a popular play..it was a one woman show for 2 hours..and I was very much impressed by her..Pearlly Chua..she was so professional...really have to thank MD for giving me the opportunity to experience this..

3.3.07-4.3.07 (Sat-Sun)-14th-15th of CNY
Mark was back to Klang this weekend..followed his bro in law..but then, I will be going to Johor to attend my CG member's wedding lunch on 4/3..will be travelling down at 3pm, 3/3 with Ester and CK..
The journey was pretty smooth..no traffic but raining in some parts of Johor..As we reached Kluang, I called up my friend, YT to pick me from there..coz I will be staying at her house while the rest of them in the hotel..YT is my uni-mate..one of my plan coming down to Johor is to visit her...met up with her parents, nice people..spent some quality time with her..she was sharing with me some of her personal problems..and I tried my best to help her with my own experiences and encounters with God..oh ya, YT became a Christian when she was in UK..really praise God..she was telling me that she didn't know I am a Christian during university time..until one day, she sat my car and found the Christianity car sticker..she told me “你是基督徒啊？我不是，你会讨厌我吗？”..then, I asked her, so how did I reply to her? “我是基督徒，你会讨厌我吗？”..haha..i totally can't recall bout this..
Both of us attended the local church on Sun morning, before I went for the wedding lunch in another kampung area..this is my first time attending outside church service..I found the sermon was pretty much bible studying...it was a small church..
Then, YT and her parents sent me to Chamek, a small town where my CG member stayed..the wedding lunch was good..almost all the villagers attended, and the Village Chief was invited to give speech..wow..as if we were watching some HongKong movie series..
We left Johor about 4.30pm..safe journey home..but tiring..thanks to Ester for offering to drive..

So, 15th days of CNY gone..I enjoyed myself very much..angpows this year was quite good(托 Mark的福)..had great time with family members, relatives, friends, church members, Mark's family and friends and most importantly, Mark..